Two Weeks Alcohol Free

 

(That’s a huge weight ON my mind)

JIM, JIM we love you! No-one’s ever done two weeks alcohol free before!!!!!

Crowds throng the streets, tickertape streams down from the buildings, bands play and fireworks crack and dance into the sky. Jim has completed two weeks alcohol free and not since England won the world cup in 1966 day have so many people had such a joyous reason to celebrate……

Ok that’s probably a little over the top. Two weeks alcohol free, that’s OK, not bad. It’s a start.

It’s been overall a good two weeks. Saturday was tough though. Walking round town in the sunshine. It felt like everyone, but everyone, was drinking alcohol. Young couple outside a bistro sharing a chilled bottle of white, a group of chaps my age laughing and sharing stories whilst supping pints, I swear even the babies had a nip of scotch in their feeding bottles. Why me? I wanted to scream out, why am I the only person in the whole world being denied a drink, I WANT A DRINK! Give me a drink!

It passed. I managed to pull myself together and got a grip of myself. I visualised my list of being alcohol -free benefits:

  • Lots more energy
  • Better sleep(most of the time)
  • Lower blood pressure
  • Feeling good in the morning
  • More motivation
  • More alertness and concentration
  • better self perception ( I’m succeeding at making a difficult change what else could I accomplish!)
  • Better overall mood
  • Less anxiety (except weekends)
  • Nicer skin tone
  • Smug, superiority complex- Ok maybe scratch that one.

Yes, that helped reminding myself that I was going to enjoy some benefits that I wouldn’t have had if I had a drink. I got through the stroll through town, had a great tasting double expresso but my little excursion showed me once again the power of association. I was feeling the pull of alcohol which hadn’t been there earlier simply because it was suddenly all around me in those associated places; the bars, restaurants and park. Not a physical addiction but a strong psychological craving brought on by sheer exposure to alcohol in every conceivable space and the associations they have for me. Thank goodness for my checklist of benefits, my motivational reminders.

Then something dawned on me. The list of benefits as seen above had not included weight loss. Hold on you say, surely weight loss is one of the really nice fringe benefits of going alcohol free. Yes, it should be and yet it hasn’t happened. Two whole weeks and Im still a cuddly 200 lbs. Why? How has this happened?

You can take away my wine , but you will never take away my Stilton!

The truth is shocking to hear, for the blame, my friends can be laid firmly at the door of fellow, so-called supportive bloggers. Yes, you know who you are. They are the ones that seem well intentioned but lay traps, help you on your feet one minute only to trip you up seconds later. Let me explain. Last week some of these “supportive bloggers” told me to be kind to myself, to treat myself, pamper myself. So I did. I treated myself to pies, crisps, blue cheese, chocolate. Oh such kind friends telling me to treat myself. Let’s not stop there; fish and chips ooh, that’s a treat, as is cheddar cheese, camenbert. The treating was going into overdrive. Of course the weight piled on and then I realised, this was the garden of Eden all over again. I was being led astray. Evil bloggers telling me to be kind to myself. Shame on you.

Thankfully I saw through these bloggers manipulative ruses and stopped just in time.

Of course in reality they were right- to get through those first couple of weeks, if a few treats get you through then I say, go for it. On a serious note I’ll say thank you again to those bloggers who leave comments and who offer support and encouragement. It does make a huge difference and getting that support is the best non-calorific treat you could ever wish for.

Onwards and Upwards as they say.

Jim x

 

 

23 thoughts on “Two Weeks Alcohol Free

  1. sobrietytree

    Huge congrats Jim!!! 🎉🙌🎶🏆 2 weeks is great! Especially 2 weekends included in that, and some of it in sunny weather. Glad your cravings passed. Nice work remembering the good stuff. The food thing is a struggle for sure… I have a horrid salt-licorice addiction. Working on it! 😁xo n

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    1. Jim Simmonds Post author

      Thanks Nadine. Cravings were certainly better second weekend until seeing a sea of drinkers in town! I’m going to work at getting to grips with food and weight next. Im sure once I get back to normal eating habits, the not drinking will provide me with a weight loss dividend. I love licorice too .
      Jim x

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  2. Jim Simmonds Post author

    Ah the cheese. My weakness. I will never give that up! You’re so lucky being in France with all that fromage. Talking about it is making me go downstairs and grab a portion. One addiction at a time eh.

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  3. Untipsyteacher

    Congratulations! I sure understand the connections with seeing people drinking! My first time up north with friends at cabins was so hard. Everyone drinking wine and happy hour.
    Time will help.
    Your list is good.
    Having a food issue myself, I don’t use food as a treat, but I don’t deny myself either. I have trigger foods that will cause me to binge eat, if I am stressed or tired.
    I think of being thin as my treat!
    Or if I must, a new dress! Lol
    xo
    Wendy

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    1. Jim Simmonds Post author

      Yes it’s hard seeing booze everywhere, outside , on the telly, funnily though doesn’t bother having bottles of wine in the house. It’s seeing people drinking. It’s better now that I can see they’re enjoying their drinks while I’ll get to enjoy my new benefits.
      Jim x

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  4. nomorebeer2019

    Yaaaaaay Jim !!!! Congrats on 2 weeks 🙂 I’m right here a couple of days behind you. I was wondering: do you have a list of ways you can treat yourself without it being food? I know music is definitely up there, but what if you made a list of 10-15 little things? At first I was completely unable to think of anything beyond 1. beer, 2. chocolate 🙂 But now I’m getting close to 10 and I find I have sooooo many more tools in my box than I thought ! xoxoxo hang in there !

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  5. Jim Simmonds Post author

    Thanks Anne, and congrats to you too. Knowiing you are just a few days behind is a great incentive for me. I know I mustn’t let you down, which also means there’s pressure on you too. If you crack, all my resolve could come crumbling down. Seriously though it does make a difference knowing you’re also doing this and I’m also a bit competitive which also helps- sad eh?
    List of treats? That’s interesting. I know cheese is a treat and now non alcoholic beer (I’ve found a couple that actually taste OK). A couple I can’t mention out of modesty, oh and watching documentaries on my own in the early morning, I’ve always loved that period aroun 5-7 in the morning before others get up and now I get to enjoy that time without feeling muggy or hungover, that’s a treat. And it just occured to me that this, communicating and blogging; that’s become a treat and wouldn’t be happening were I still drinking. It’s great. Anne, I think you should open that tool box right now and give yourself a treat.
    Jim x

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    1. nomorebeer2019

      yeeees this blogging business has become a treat for me too! Weirdly, I am also recently getting into tea (I never would have thought this possible in the past. I always thought people who spent time on anything more complex than good old cuppa with milk were boring – well turns out my beer fanaticism might have seemed boring to them, who knows?). LOL as for the emotional blackmail keep it going! I’m competitive too and also I really value the support – you are the first person I spoke to on this forum and that is special to me 🙂 I won’t let you down !

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      1. Jim Simmonds Post author

        Ah that’s sweet, and I like that feeling of a bit of responsibility. Now don’t get me started on tea! The drink that built an empire! It’s great and like beer you can get nicely nerdy about the different varieties and blends, welcome to the world of craft teas😉. And of course, tea was the Asian answer to the problem of dealing with dirty water. We solved it in the west by brewing and making alcohol to create safe water, the east, boiled it and infused it with tea! Keep it up Anne and have an earl grey on me.
        Jim x

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      2. nomorebeer2019

        oooooo I never thought of brewing as a solution to the dirty water problem ! The drinking equivalent of my recent pickling/fermenting/preserving mania 🙂 Yeah, I could be ok with becoming a tea nerd 🙂 I can’t wait for the world to start a massive non-alcoholic craft beer obsession. Then I’ll happily join in. Actually, I don’t think I’ve EVER tried an AF beer, ever. I think I’m still ashamed to order that at a bar. For now I’m happy at home drinking tea 🙂 Hope you’re doing ok Jim, looking forward to your next post 🙂 xoxo

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      3. Jim Simmonds Post author

        It’s interesting the east /west split on how to deal with contaminated water. Because Europe went for the brewing,/ alcohol route (the alcohol kills of lots of bacteria etc) many Europeans have more of the enzymes that process alcohol. We’ve genetically evolved to drink! Usually People in the Far East – who boiled their water to make it safe and infused it with tea to make it taste nice (we went for hops) don’t have so many of these enzymes and consequently many can’t handle their drink to the same extent. It’s quite interesting🙂

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      4. nomorebeer2019

        Oooooo that explains so much ! (I grew up in Vietnam and have many memories of Vietnamese women saying they “never” drink because it “makes you sick” 🙂 and somehow it would not fit the picture of the women in my very British family ^^ (my mother is English )

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  6. drgettingsober

    Well done Jim! I stuffed myself with chocolate of an evening for quite a while but less so now – whatever gets you through those early weeks/months. People think I’ve lost weight because I’ve lost puffiness and bloatedness but really it’s only a few pounds – remember this is the hardest bit it does get easier! X

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    1. Jim Simmonds Post author

      Thank you! I’ve been allowing myself lots of alcohol substitutes for the first couple of weeks but easing up on that now. Parts of this process have been hard but my earlier 3 month “trial” has made this a lot easier than I was expecting. For me the hard part will be some upcoming meals, events and visits. But with hopefully 3 weeks under my belt they should be easier to negotiate. Your support is really appreciated.
      Jim x

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  7. Addy

    Well done for getting through 2 weeks despite enormous temptations on the way. I appreciate how hard it has been but you have done it. The problem is to swap one addiction for another such as cheese and pies. Far better to distract yourself with activities, such as with your music. Or taking up another hobby. I find I want to graze on chocolate and crisps in the evening, so try to distract myself by busying myself with knitting squares to make blankets for an animal sanctuary. But getting out of the house is also a good distraction – walking (where there are no beer drinkers), cinema, helping a homeless or animal charity for example.

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  8. Addy

    Well done for getting through 3 weeks despite the temptations. It can’t have been easy, but you have done it successfully so far. The problem is to swap one addiction for another such as cheese and pies. That is why it is better to get engrossed in new activities or hobbies. For example to stop me munching my way through my bodyweight of chocolate or crisps, I knit squares to make blankets for an animal sanctuary. It keeps my hands busy and the cravings away. You could take up a new hobby or just distract yourself with a long walk (not near pubs obviously) or the cinema or helping a charity or ballroom dancing or whatever takes your fancy.

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    1. Jim Simmonds Post author

      Thanks Addy, I’m easing up on the cheese this week and I’ve got lots of distractions. Funnily enough my partner’s into knitting. She does it with a group that make clothes for premature babies. I’ve got my music, table tennis, I volunteer with Samaritans and now blogging as well as a bit of work so no worries with needing more distractions. It’s some big social events coming up that will be a real test but feel determined to carry on enjoying the benefits of being alcohol free.
      Jim x

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  9. Dana L Pescrillo

    Hurray!!! Coming along nicely, you are. I have 10 days down, on day 11 and feeling pretty good. Each time I take on a new stretch of alcohol free days, it’s easier to get pass the food crutches. The goal is to not drink ever again, but I don’t focus on that as much as this day only. However, I’m determine to give this a long go, and following behind you is motivation for me. Pressure I know, but hopefully good pressure for you, LOL! dp

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    1. Jim Simmonds Post author

      Pressure? I feed off the pressure. I wallow and bathe in it. Pressure is my friend and companion. Bring on the pressure!
      Oh dear, getting carried away again. Well done you. We need this mutual support in seriousness as there is so much ALCOHOL pressure out there. Alcohol is everywhere you look, reminding and enticing us. We will not buckle. Dana, we are strong, WE ARE THE SOBERISTAS!! 😃

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      1. Dana L Pescrillo

        Hahaha! Okay, SOBERISTAS we are!!! Very, very, true, alcohol is everywhere, even in our local .99 cent stores! Personal inside joke of my own. Mutual support is key, and while I won’t pretend to be a good example, I am a good cheerleader! I feel positive, today. I won’t drink today. I am planning to go visit the mother-in-law, who is not doing well, this weekend. As she lives two hours away, I don’t plan to drink with all the driving, visiting, coming home to get ready for my following work week, etc. Darn, I just sort of zapped wanting to go see her now. Anyway, I will hang on to your enthusiasm to keep me strong in spirit and mind! And I will keep the pressure on you, as you thrive on it, so you say! LOL!

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  10. Jim Simmonds Post author

    Well I hope you can enjoy your weekend. There’s a little group of us all started around the same time and I find that very motivating. We are the SOBERISTAS, soft drinks at the ready, ready to take on the world. Buen fin de semana Dana (did I get that right?)

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