Tis The Time To be Merry-(Unless you’re trying to give up the bloody booze!)

Right,  this is where the one year plus sober bloggers have to show their worth.

How do you survive the Christmas/ NewYear season?

Screenshot 2019-12-06 at 11.45.50.pngIt feels like someone has said, “Ok there’s a bunch of people trying very hard to give up booze, so lets really make it difficult for them, let’s pull out all the stops to get them to drink, we will pile on so much pressure they have to crack, ha ha ha” (wicked laughter trailing off)

Now I know alcohol is pervasive in our culture but this time of year it really is everywhere.  You get invited to parties, but they are not called “parties”, they are called “FUCKING DRINK PARTIES” – (Actually i’ve never had an invite to a party with the word fucking in it, I added that for dramatic emphasis, but you get the picture.) Office parties are spoken about in terms of how much booze there will be and everyone knows the only way you can legitamately have sex or flirt at the office party is if you have the always seemingly indulged excuse that you were drunk.  What are the sober folks to do- never flirt or have illicit sex ever again?

Meals out- booze, meet friends- booze, Christmas lights- pub and more booze, and for me the absolute killer , even baby Jesus is now peddling the booze.  Yes, hard to believe but true. My local church sent me an invite to come to a carol service.  The enticement- free mulled wine! Not spiritual enlightenment, free booze! Literally, God help us!  So, there we have it, even the church and baby Jesus are tempting me to drink now.  HELP!!!!!!

Of course I used to love Christmas when I was a drinker.  My favourite time of the year. Bring it on I’d say. It is the time of year when you don’t have to feel self conscious or embarrassed about your drinking because everyone is getting shit-faced. “Hey it’s Christmas”.  Drinkers’ paradise.

Around this time I’d order excessive amounts of every type of booze to be delivered.   Tanker loads of the stuff. And every day in the run up to Christmas was an excuse to open a bottle. Christmas Day itself was my drinker’s nirvana day. Champagne with breakfast and no raised eyebrows, beers with presents, gin whilst cooking and then bottle after bottle of red wine and no one pointing the finger,  because

 

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IT’S CHRISTMAS. It’s OK to get drunk, make a fool of yourself, have family arguments, be part of the annual spike in violent incidents, hospital admissions and divorce applications because we are welcoming in the birth of a saviour bringing peace and goodwill to the world. Incredible!

Well I’m glad to be shot of it all. Bah, humbug.  Hangovers, embarrassments, arguments, feeling ill, swollen face covered in sweat. Get thee behind me baby Jesus ( apologies to the believers out there I know its never the fault of the child) .  I’m looking forward to being a bit different this Christmas, to spending my time sober.  I know it won’t always be easy but its probably the biggest challenge of the year so, I reckon,  do this and anything is possible.  Walking the path of sobriety hereafter will be but a gentle stroll.

Finally it would be good to hear how the 1 year plus sober crowd managed their first Christmas.  Come on don’t be shy. Share and think of it as your sober pressy to the rest of us newbies.

Rudolph the Sober Reindeer  xxx

Jim’s Recommended listening for alternative festive songs – So much wine – Handsome family and white wine in the sun by Tim Minchin. Enjoy.

 

26 thoughts on “Tis The Time To be Merry-(Unless you’re trying to give up the bloody booze!)

  1. ceponatia

    It’ll be easy for me because I was never one to party or drink socially. All of my drinking was done privately in my bedroom (or apartment way back when I could afford one!). Holidays don’t trigger me the way they do other alcoholics. My triggers all have to do with isolation and self-esteem. When I see a relative or friend absolutely off their face at a Christmas party, I don’t envy them!

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  2. nomorebeer2019

    Dear Rudolph, I LOVED this post. So Rockn’Roll !!!! I remember feeling slightly nauseous and very ashamed when last year my father came home from a Christmas Eve last minute shopping session (sent by my mother) with two supermarket carts (trollies^^) FULL of booze – there were SOOOO many bottles… for only 6 people… it was insane. I partook, but I also took a picture and promised myself to remember the feeling of disgust at the pathological excess masquerading as ‘normalcy’. And here we are one year later, blogging about sobriety… who would have thought? I am eager to hear the veterans’ stories and right there with you with the idea that surviving this will make all the rest seem like a stroll in the park. WE CAN DO THIS!!! xxx Anne

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  3. Lia

    Thank you for the laugh! Your humor is wonderful! One of the things I have been able to do these past two years, is not use holidays as excuses to drink my head off. I’ve managed Christmas last year with no drinking. At the time, I was a little edgy, but overall okay. Looking back, it was a good time. And the beauty, no hurt feelings, arguments, hangovers, etc. This year will be even better. xo, ll

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  4. Untipsyteacher

    Jim, lol! I made it through Thanksgiving where everyone drank in the family but me and Mr. UT!
    I like keeping my times at events short, bringing my own AF drinks if needed, or just not going. I made coffee plans with people instead of night out plans. I ate cookies! Good ones, not cheapie ones! Volunteering helps, too! I do not have as many friends as you do, ha, so I only get asked to a one party, maybe two! LOL
    xo
    Wendy

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  5. clairei47

    You are hilarious! 😂 I laughed out loud at the photos and my god I have put a lot away in previous Christmas seasons. Like you, the day itself centred around what I was drinking next! I’m not going to discuss Christmas parties .. yours were clearly wilder than mine 😉
    I am going to find it tough but I’m also looking forward to experiencing it through sober eyes this year. I have a feeling it’s going to be the most wonderful Christmas in a while for me!
    Claire x

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    1. Jim Simmonds Post author

      Hi Claire
      I worked mainly in schools and as you can imagine teachers behave with consumate professionalism even at the end of term😉. One head I worked with did get drunk at the end of term and he was seen as a remote and cold person. After downing lots of wine he started sitting on the laps of many staff asking why noone loved him. After that he could never put on the remote exterior again. One rare example of alcohol doing some good! I hope your Christmas is wonderful .Hoping mine will be too. Jim x

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  6. functioningguzzler

    Haha oh baby Jesus lol. I found that I was more selective in what I did and didn’t attend and the ones I did attend I would take part in the early part of the evening and then just say I was off to the loo and didn’t come back lol. If I had a close friend there or a boss I would text just before driving off to say see yah and have a good night so they didn’t worry. I would drink something like ginger ale so people just thought it was a beer and leave me alone and often say no thanks I’ve drunk enough this life time and am driving. If I did stay a bit longer it was actually an eye opener of just how pathetic people can get when they are drunk. Honestly how much shit can people talk and some you can’t even understand what the heck they are on about. But the best part is still to come and that is the next day! You get up hangover free, without a furry mouth and stink alcohol breath and are able to get up and do something not have a day were you really achieve very little. As for the chatting people up blah blah I personally find a sober person more attractive than a drunk person ❤ Good luck, not that I think your going to need it because you can do this and you can do it easily. xox

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    1. Jim Simmonds Post author

      Thanks and I agree with what you say. I know that with this weekend I would previously have planned for the hangover, arranging the Sunday and Monday around it- how crazy is that? Now I can look forward to a bright start on Sunday and maybe some sightseeing in London! Jim x

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  7. limetwiste

    Many people have pointed out the fact of leaving a party earlier than you would normally, before things get sloppy.
    I stopped going to Christmas family get togethers completely the year before I gave up drinking. Best decision ever. Never really enjoyed them anyway. That is my way of dealing with it. Not for everyone.

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    1. Jim Simmonds Post author

      Choosing to leave a little earlier sounds like a plan. And family get togethers, all depends on your family I guess. My aim is to organise lots of games and quizzes and, being sober, win them all! 😀

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  8. sobrietytree

    Um, is it bad that I think someone has a photo of me (although strangely, while relatively sober) posing just like that Santa under the tree? She was doing some kind of art project for which she needed live subjects, unclear, never saw her again after she fell into our hedge and threw up on a plate. Hope she is well, and that my photo is doing a good job rather than a bad one somewhere, somehow. 😂😂God what I will do for art… and after a single glass of wine. This is why I had to stop… art and booze don’t mix!!! hehehe

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