What Can I Say?

My last post was erroneously titled “Back Again.” That was 2 months ago and I wasn’t back again. I dropped by, wrote a few words and disappeared. Aware that I wasn’t really “back again” I felt that what I should do is face the fact that doing the blog didn’t have the same motivational pull it used to have. I started it to help me stay the course in what I thought was never going to work, namely giving up booze. But it did work- the writing things down, the comments, reading other blogs; all of that was a massive part of being able to give up and stay alcohol free.

But then , like so many other things, not drinking became normalised. No more Friday night anxiety crisis, no internal wrestling. I gave up and life carried on. Other than the odd time when I’d remember my drinking days and yearn to join in, not drinking became what I did, a part of who I now was. I no longer wanted to drink. I preferred not drinking. So doing the blog began to lack a purpose. I know others have found it useful and that makes me feel a little bit guilty. Suppose others read my blog, think, “yes, if he can do it so can I” and then suddenly the posts stop, some might assume I’d cracked and gone back on the juice. Added to that is maybe a feeling that having been supported by sober bloggers meant that now is the time that I should do the same for others maybe starting out. But it that just didn’t work for me.

So a few days ago I resolved to do a final post saying I’m still here and happily alcohol free and that I would post something if that ever changed. I also was going to say I’d be happy to communicate directly with anyone if they wanted my support. That was the intention. The final post.

Then a couple of days ago I was chatting to my Spanish friend who told me she had been reading my blog, had no intention of giving up alcohol but just enjoyed the posts. That was unexpected and intriguing. I guess it was also helping her with her English and if she reads this I fully expect a comment written in both English and Spanish! I told her of my plan to wind up the blog but with that incredible insight that women seem to have so much more of than us chaps, she said, “if you don’t want to write about alcohol all the time write about different things.” Pretty obvious really.

So then I said, “So what should I write about?”

She said, “Ask people who read your blog (which is now probably just one or two) what they would like you to write about. That might be a good start.”

So I’m going to give that a go as a way of getting back into my blog. I’m reaching out to Blogland- If anyone wants to, then please fire some questions at me, name some topics that might be interesting for me to reflect on and write about, crank up my rusty blogging engine to get me going. Alternatively just ignore me and I’ll go sulk in the corner with my fragile ego. It’s down to anyone foolish enough to be reading this – give me questions or inspiration. Let’s see where “BLOG PHASE 2 – Post Alcohol Musings” takes me.

Oh and a final alcohol free related point. Gordons 0% “spirit” is very nice!

I’m ready and waiting!

Jim X

23 thoughts on “What Can I Say?

  1. clairei47

    Are you implying I am foolish for reading your blog? How rude!! Joking 🙃
    I think lots of us soberistas and sober curious on here write about a variety of subjects other than alcohol. Mental Health issues, the pandemic, problems with diet and also healthy eating. Many of us are just interested to see how our blogging friends are doing and what they’ve been up to. It’s good to share when you’ve taken up new hobbies, set new goals or just need to sound off about something you read or watched on the news. Reading others’ blogs can trigger ideas for your own posts. I always find it interesting when people have read an article, or researched a subject and they write about it. It provokes comments and sparks interest. I think it would be a shame for you not write anymore. I enjoyed reading your posts, not just because of the AF content although that helped me enormously, but because they were full of humour, insight, knowledge and compassion.

    Hope to read another one soon
    Claire x

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    1. Jim Simmonds Post author

      You are right of course Claire, there is no reason why I couldn’t have written about all sorts of things – I suppose it’s that the blog has as it’s purpose exploring what happens in the course of giving up the booze and that’s the main focus but let’s see what happens if I change the focus a little. X

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  2. Dwight Hyde

    Hey Jim – I’ve definitely had many different focuses out here on blogland, so my blog has become a life blog and topics vary weekly. Right now I’m using it for my Going for it – 52 Week Challenge. I’m always interested in what types of things is feeding another mans soul. Like what “jazzes” you at this point in your life, lessons learned along the way, and what new endeavors/goals are you looking to start. I’m a bit outnumbered out here so please keep posting! I enjoy your humor and insights.😊

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  3. Sober Veg Mama

    Hi Jim! I’m happy to read about whatever is going on with your life 😉 Thank you for the Gordon’s rec, I will have to look for that here, I don’t care much for AF beer or wine so this might be nice.

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    1. Jim Simmonds Post author

      Hi SVM, Ok I’ll give your suggestion a go but writing about my life could be a dull read so that’s now down to you 😉 And I’m with you on the drinks. By far the best AF drinks I’ve tried are the “mixer” type- Acorn, Everleaf, Seedlip and now Gordons0% – Cheers!

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    1. Jim Simmonds Post author

      Hi Wendy and you did come to mind when I was thinking about this because I know that’s what you have done. I suppose for me I’m best when I have a specific focus but hey I’ll give “life” a go😀 X

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  4. jacquelyn3534

    I remember one Sunday morning I posted about how annoyed I am at trying to get those plastic little T-things off a pack of new socks. I think I titled that blog “Sunday morning thoughts.” 😆 It was a completely random post however I was really frustrated with those damn little T-things that morning! I received some real funny comments to that post. 😄 We would love to hear anything from you! I would miss your humor if you didn’t blog anymore! 😊

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    1. Jim Simmonds Post author

      That’s quite something to get a post out of that-nice one. I’m inspired. I did struggle opening my peanut butter jar this morning but not sure I can get any laughs out of that 😀x

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  5. Addy

    My blog has morphed into different ways. At first it was purely about living with an alcoholic. On his death, it became more of life as an alcoholic widow and ways to help others in a similar boat. More recently it has become purely a diary as I progress on a different path. I have often thought of stopping – it is not as if I get the readers anymore – but it is nice to look back at what I did and when. You might use it as the same.

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    1. Jim Simmonds Post author

      Hi Addy
      I think if I do carry on I have to find a new angle and like you I’m conscious that these blogs do help others who are looking to change their relationship to alcohol x

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